Monday, July 4, 2011

A Broken Heart

So, I'm having a bad day; we all have them. Fact is, you can't get through life without them! My son got a phone call today. We were on our way to a July 4th cookout, swim party, celebration with family.  I heard him say "oh, no. Oh my God" I was hoping it wasn't as bad as it sounded. It was.  One of his best friends had been killed in a accident. He loved riding his bike. The news was he had been struck and killed while riding his bicycle. He was a drummer. He was full of life and love.  He was 24 years old. He was such a handsome young man and my heart aches for my son and his friend's parents.

When we have sudden unexpected losses and hardships, its important to just take it one day at a time.....or one minute at a time, one hour at a time. Sometimes that's about all we can do!  Our mind has a wonderful way of protecting us in times of shock.  It only lets us absorb the crisis a little bit at a time. That's why things might seem very surreal for a period of time.

My son's heart has been broken; it is full of grief. We took the food to the party and came back home. We called out for pizza and just hung around the house. There will be no fireworks and celebrations in this house tonight.  Our hearts are heavy.  However,  tonight I am so thankful that I have my son. I feel almost selfish in my gratitude.

Tonight our loss is heaven's gain. I know the angels are singing just a little bit sweeter. 
R.I.P. David Whitney


  1. Jeremiah called me from work last night and I could tell that he was trying so hard to keep it together. I was very confused by his tone and it sounded like crying. Then he told me that David had been killed. It took me a few seconds and I said "David with the mohawk?". Then he just broke down and said yes. He said Mom, I just had a beer with him a few days ago. I wanted to just throw up. I'm sick for his parents, I'm sick for our boys who were so close and I'm sick for the loss of such a nice young gentleman.

    Andrea Cawthon

  2. Della;
    There is nothing worse than seeing your child going through the grief of losing a friend in such a horrible way. Last Sept right before school was about to begin. A few friends went to a lake with the intention of having some last ditch fun before school began on the Tuesday.My son wanted to go and I insisted he was not, he hadn't finished putting his "stuff" for school together.Later we received a call saying two boys had drowned in the lake. They took out a canoe, none were experienced one could not swim nor were they wearing life jackets.The two boys who drowned were my son's best friends, they grew up together and they planned on being friends for a long time.It is painful, gut wrenching sad and heart breaking all rolled into one. My heart hurt so terribly for my son, but it's part of growing up..
    Love Alli....x